Don’t Tell Me When I’m Going to Die – NY Times

Having watched as a number of loved ones have had to make this decision as to hearing a prognosis, this article does a good job of covering issues faced by terminally ill patients. While I accept the author’s idea that “maybe it’s better not to know” my experience has shown that there is a downside to that, which is denial. My late wife was in denial of her death to the detriment of focusing on quality time with her loved ones. It was not good for our son. It also put me, as the caregiver, in the position of not ‘supporting’ her possible recovery. It would have been much better for all of us if she had been more willing to accept that it was unlikely that she would recover, and focus on healing along with preparing to end her life with dignity.

Prognoses are more of an art than a science. Maybe it’s better not to know.

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